Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Rav Mordechai Eliyahu on the Holocaust

Rav Mordechai Eliyahu, as reported by the Jerusalem Post, recently stated that the blame for the Holocaust falls to the sins of the Reform Jews and their movement, which had begun some 200 years before the Holocaust ever took place.

This is akin to something Ovadia Yosef said several years, that the Jews who died in the Holocaust deserved to die because they were the reincarnated souls of sinners. Say what, now?! How can he POSSIBLY know something like this?! To say something like this is to trivialize one of the worst tragedies ever to befall the Jewish people.

I'm sorry, but I don't care how great a rabbi thinks he may be, and Ovadia Yosef is a great showperson for this, with his fancy sunglasses and his Mercedes (Nazi Car!!) limo, no human being can possible know Da'as Hashem, what God has in mind when he allows events to take place, especially ones as earth shattering as the Holocaust.

No one, I don't care who or how great, has a right to decide why the Holocaust happened and place blame on anyone, except the perpetrators. This was a tragedy of immense proportion the reason for which only God can know. Did Reb Moshe Feinstein ever decide God's reason for bringing on the Holocaust? The Lubavitcher Rebbe? Reb Yaakov Kaminetzky? Not that I've ever heard. They may have given comfort about this, but I don't believe they ever gave reasons for the Holocaust. And certainly, they never placed blame on anyone!

This blame game from the Chareidi/Right Wing/Yeshivish camp has got to stop! What would happen if someone said the Holocaust happened because all the Right Wingers of the day hated anyone to the left of them?! Certainly, from many comments of Right Wing Nut Jobs (RWNJs), this seems to be the case: They hate everyone to the left of them.

Chazal tell us the Bais Hamikdash, among other reasons, was destroyed because of Sin'as Chinam, senseless hatred, and will only be rebuilt because of Ahavas Chinam. Ahavas Chinam doesn't just mean to other people of your camp. It means to all Jews.

People cannot go around saying who or what was the cause for the Holocaust. We cannot possibly know such a thing. All these self-proclaimed "Gedolim" need to get off their pedestals, where their followers have placed them, and stop putting people in Cherem for no good reason, stop blaming one group or another for the Holocaust or any other tragedy that has befallen our bewildered nation.

Further, if one wants to play the blame game fairly, how about blaming the Chachamim who were sitting at the tish and watching Bar-Kamtza being humiliated and not saying a word. Oh, sure there are all sorts of excuses, like not wanting to upset their host because he was politically powerful, or that Bar-Kamtza was prolonging his own embarrassment because he should have just left when he realized there was a mistake. Yeah. End of the day: They allowed someone to be so humiliated that he decided, right or wrong aside, to take revenge. And he did.

Again, this blame game HAS GOT TO STOP!!! I've quoted this line many times before and probably will many times again: DIVREI CHACHAMIM B'NACHAS NISHMA'IM! When a "gadol" goes around blaming others for a terrible tragedy that encompassed the ENTIRE JEWISH NATION, all that's going to happen is the people he is blaming are going to hate him and worse, hate Orthodox Judaism even more than they already do.

There are enough people in the human race who already hate Jews. Do we have to hate each other as well?

Friday, April 13, 2007

Fear of Science

Long has raged the debate about whether science is evil because scientists use science to prove God does not exist or if, through science, we see the beauty of Hashem's world, which He runs through nature, not above it. I, of course, am a proponent of the latter. And in truth, so are many scientist, who, while making amzazing discoveries, may also be devoutly religious people. In fact, Darwin was a deeply religious man. And evolution is indeed a fact of life, which adapts to its environs over time.

Some examples: My father-in-law bought me a subscription to Astronomy Magazine, as it is one of the many things he and I have in common: a love for the stars. I happen to know almost nothing about Astronomy from a practicing standpoint, but I do love looking and the magazine is written for us common folk who aren't all that scientific. ANYWAY, there is an article in the May, 2007 issue I found fascinating, entitled Cosmology: Five Things You Need to Know. Thing number 3 was: What kind of explosion was the Big Bang? Yes, I said Big Bang! Common belief is that the Big Bang was some kind of explosion that took place nearly 14 billion (yes, I said BILLION) years ago that caused the creation of the cosmos.

Well, it wasn't an explosion, as the author of this article tells us: "It's [the Big Bang's] name implies a standard bang, such as a chemical explosion - think of firewords - and once we have this image in our mind, it's hard to imagine the Big Bang as anything else. But the universe's beginning wasn't an explosion. It was closer to (are you ready for this - from an "evil" scientist!!) an unfolding, OR CREATION, of matter, energy, time - and space itself." The article continues: "'What would actually have been a much better name is the expanding-universe theory, because it's really a theory of how the universe expands,' says David Spergel, a WMAP team member at Princeton University."

WOW! That was beautiful! The Big Bang was a CREATION of everything - a Yeish Me'Ayin - something from nothing! That's fantastic! So, because of an unfortunate choice of words, what is a working theory of the creation of the universe is debunked by religious fanatics who don't really know what they are talking about when the debunk that theory!

Ok, so there's the age of the universe thing. Many rabbanim for many centuries have proposed all sorts of answers to that - the best of which is the one where there were many Olamos (worlds) before ours. Another is that time is relative, and we have no idea how time flowed back at the creation of the universe. I'm not going to go into all the theories, which are really complex, but if one is interested, one may pick up Rabbi Natan Slifkin's book, The Challenge of Creation, and read all about it in part two of his book, which deals with Cosmology, and in which he correctly quotes several Rabbinic sources to support his theories. Of course, if one holds Rabbi Slifkin's books are assur to read, well, then, I'm sorry for a person who adheres to a wrongful ban.:)

Next example. We have a precept that when Hashem helps, He usually does so within the confines of nature. A friend of mine recently saw a special on the History Channel about the Ten Plagues Hashem brought down upon the Egyptians enslaving the Israelites. This special explores whether the Ten Plagues could have happened and how, trying to explain them scientifically. Sounds like they are trying to take God out of the equation, doesn't it? And maybe this was their motivation. But, in doing so, they just strengthen my belief in the fact that Hashem works through nature, rather than above it, whenever possible, and uses nature to achieve his goals.

The special proposes a theory that a volcano erupted that could have caused all the plagues, in the order mentioned in the Torah: There was apparently a volcano that erupted around the time of the plagues/Exodus. The volcanic fallout, as shown in more recent history in Africa, could have heated the water. This would have done a few things. First, bringing sediment and rust to the surface. (Your water turned to blood). Second, it would kill things in the water, except frogs... they could escape. Hence the plague of frogs. With the water gone bad one gets the pestilance. (Gnats and flies). Thunder and hail could be the fiery fallout of volcanic rock. The density of the air could cause rain. Hence the fire and ice. Darkness would be had by the volanic fallout and ash, the boils cause by the gases... they saw this in Africa when they had a similar eruption...

Basically, they scientifically and historically showed what COULD have caused the 10 plagues. That said, they were quick to point out that this is not to say that God COULDN'T have caused the eruption that created the fallout of the 10 plagues in the first place!

Ok. So we have a volcano, which for all we know, could have been dormant forever, and it suddenly erupts, causing all the plagues! This is a beautiful example of Hashem working THROUGH nature, not outside it! This is Moshe showing the Jewish people the wonders of Hashem! "Ma Rabu Ma'asecha Hashem, Kulam B'Chachma Asseesa - How wonderous are your works Hashem, you have created all of them with wisdom!"

Bottom line - all those fundamentalists out there who are walking around claiming Science and the existence of God are incompatible - YOU ARE SIMPLY WRONG!! it is foolish to put someone in cherem because he is showing, in a beautiful, Torah way, how compatible Science and Torah and God are. If someone is so threatened by rabbinically supported theories that to accept them shakes one's faith to its foundations, then something is very wrong with that faith. You can't have an all or nothing world. Thinking people need to understand that Torah and Science are indeed very compatible and that one can see the beauty of Torah and Hashem's world through Science.

Thursday, April 12, 2007

Minhag Avoseichem B'Yedeichem

I had a thought about one of the topics I've been discussing and I think it might go a long way toward explaining why I think the system as it is doesn't work and why I think it was meant to change with the times, not remain virtually unchanged since the days of the Mishna and the Gemara.

When Hillel HaKatan and his contemporaries set and dispersed the Jewish calendar (ca. 360 AD), they sent a message to the Jewish population in Chutz La'Aretz stating that while the calendar had now been set, "Hizaharu B'Minhag Avoseichem B'Yedeichem," translated as "be cautious, for the customs of you fathers are in your hands." This statement has been widely interpreted to mean that Klal Yisrael outside of Eretz Yisrael must continue to keep two days of Yom Tov. And so, almost 1650 years later, anyone living outside of Israel keeps two days of Yom Tov.

However, I think this statement means something else entirely. Using the last word in this statement, "B'Yedeichem," in YOUR hands, I believe, is the key. I believe Chazal gave us a loopholes and ways to change the halachas as the times change and as circumstances dictate.

I saw a beautiful dvar Torah by R' J.B. Soloveitchik, in the name of his grandfather, R' Chaim Soloveitchik. (Thanks to Rabbi Aharon Zeigler and the Jewish Press, 3/20/07 issue, for this source.) During WWI there was a great shortage of food in Europe. R' Chaim attended a conference of rabbanim to discuss whether to allow Ashkenazim to eat Kitniyos on Pesach. On the one hand, there were the rabbanim who refused to allow Kitnityos, stating the custom, not halacha, but custom, to NOT eat Kitniyos must be observed even when difficult to emphasize the "sanctity of venerated MINHAGIM." Reb Chaim, on the other hand, vehemently objected to this reasoning, pointing out a ruling by the Rambam (Hilchos Mamrim 2:9) that stated if one labels a halacha d'Rabbanan as biblical law, one has violated the prohibition of bal tosif. Reb Chaim maintained the same applies to one who treats Rabbinic law with the same severity as Biblical law, and certainly to one who treats a custom with the severity accorded to Torah law.He therefore argued that prohibiting Ashkenazim from eating Kitniyos during a time of hardship is violating Bal Tosif, since the custom to not eat kitniyos is receiving the same treatment a Torah prohibition would.

Second day of Yom Tov, as another example, is a minhag, not a halacha. Had this minhag, as well as many others, been relaxed when the newly emancipated Jews of the 18th century started to want change, as well as Jews from that time to the present, perhaps more Jews would be Torah observant today.

I pick on Second Day of Yom Tov because I've been given all sorts of excuses for and very weak excuses for the continuation of this custom. The last one I got was that even if there had been all the communications technology we have today (email, fax, phone, texting, etc.), Chachamim would still have insisted Jews outside Eretz Yisrael keep this custom because the time might come when we might be completely cut off from access to calendars as many times in history, the regime of the time would decree Rosh Chodesh not be observed as our entire year is based on Rosh Chodesh and when the new month starts. Not having that available would destroy our observance of any Yamim Tovim. However, in the worst time in history, during the Holocaust, where the Jews in the concentration camps were completely cut off from the world, there are numerous stories of Jews keeping and celebrating Pesach and Chanukah, so, even in those worst of time, the Jews did not lose track of the calendar.

Again, when Chachamim warned the Jews of Chutz La'Aretz about Yom Tov shel Goluyos, they worded their warning very carefully: "Hizaharu b'Minhag Avoseichem B'Yedeichem" - "be cautious with the customs of your forefathers IN YOUR HANDS." They didn't tell the Jews outside of Eretz Yisrael that it was ASSUR for them to chuck Yom Tov Sheini. They told them to be careful with what was in their hands, but to do what they must. This is a very blatant hint for future generations - do what you must to keep Jews from straying. Sometimes that mean being more machmir and putting fences in place, and sometiimes it means the opposite. This point has been tragically lost.

Friday, March 23, 2007

Apologetics and Great People Messing Up - Putting Gedolim on a Pedestal

There are many stories in Tanach about great people making big mistakes, some of them even committing aveiras. The Torah and the Nevi'im do not tell us these stories for our entertainment. They tell us these stories to teach us powerful lessons. Unfortunately, these lessons are lost when apologetics are applied to the actions of these great people, thus destroying the lessons we are supposed to learn. I would like to concentrate on three examples, as well a story I recently heard about Reb Moshe Feinstein to illustrate what I am talking about.

1. Yehuda and Tamar. Yehuda marries off his oldest son, Eir, to Tamar. Eir is so infatuated with Tamar's beauty that he refuses to get her pregnant, preferring instead to be Mashchis Zera. God doesn't like this, so God kills Eir. Yehuda then gives Tamar to Onan to keep alive the name of his brother, Eir, in a process called Yibum. Onan is just as infatuated with her beauty and figure and makes the same mistake Eir had made. God doesn't like Onan's actions any more than he liked Eir's, so God kills of Onan as well. Yehuda then tells Tamar to return to her parents' home and wait for Sheila to come of age so she can marry him. By now, however, Yehuda believes Tamar has some bad mojo and has no intention of allowing Sheila to marry her. Tamar waits, but no Sheila.

Comes along sheep sheering time. Yehuda takes the trip to his flock. Tamar hears of this, dresses up as a prostitute, and waits for Yehuda by the side of the road. Yehuda propositions her, they sleep together, he has no cash, so he gives her his seal and walking stick as collateral and promises payment on his way back from the sheep sheering. Tamar returns home. When Yehuda goes looking for the "prostitute," he can't find her.

Cut to about three months later. Yehuda is notified that Tamar is pregnant! Yehuda pronounces judgement: Take her out to be burned. Tamar sends Yehuda his seal and walking stick with a message: The man to whom these objects belong is the man from whom I have become pregnant. Yehuda recognizes his objects and instead of covering his mistake and killing Tamar, actually says "Tzadka Mimeni." She was right, he was wrong. Yehuda marries her, they have twins, etc, etc.

The lesson: Own up to your mistakes, take responsibility, and if you have to end up with egg on your face, then so be it. Yehuda did exactly that.

2. The Jews wandering in the desert were really thirsty after Miriam passed away and the well following them in her zechus dried up. The Jews complained, as they are sometimes want to do. God tells Moshe: Go talk to the rock and ask it to produce water. Moshe goes, but gets really P.O.ed and instead of talking, hits the rock, which produces water. God says, Moshe, ya messed up. You don't get to go into Eretz Yisrael. Did Moshe say: "But God, it was their fault!"? No. Moshe accepts his punishment, realizing he did not perform the Kiddush Shem Shamayim he was supposed to perform, and accepts his punishment. He does ask God to retract the punishment many times, but God says no, Moshe accepts, and dies on Har Nevo.

The lesson: Same as before. Own up to your mistakes and live with the consequences.

3. Dovid Hamelech and Bas-Sheva - Wow! This is a doozy! Dovid Hamelech is up on the roof of his palace, sees Bas-Sheva bathing, lusts after her, and even after being told she was married, still seduces her and gets her pregnant. He invites Uria, Bas-Sheva's husband to wine and dine and spend "time" with his wife to cover up his mistakes, but Uria, being a man of integrity, refuses when there are battles being fought. So, Dovid sends Uria to the front lines to guarantee Uria's demise, thus allowing Dovid to marry Bas-Sheva and figuring no one knows what happens. Except that God does and sends Nosson Hanavi to give Dovid some tender-loving mussar, and informs Dovid the child will die. Dovid begs for his son's life, to no avail, and the kid dies when he is but seven days old. Dovid accepts the punishment and does Teshuva for his rather grievous aveira.

Wow! What a lesson! Even Dovid Hamelech was human and prone to human failings. The Gemara informs us that Dovid had not done a sin. The Yeshivish world likes to pretend that whatever he did was L'Shem Shamayim and there was no aveira there. If there was no aveira, why was there punishement?! Well, I asked a rav I know about this.

I discussed at lenght with this rav how I feel about these apologetics. I told him these stories mean so much more when taken at face value: Someone messed up, got punished, did Teshuva. What a lesson! These people weren't infallible angels! They are humans who sometimes fail and have to pick themselves and the pieces up, live with the consequences, and keep going! And you know what? They are still great people! From Yehuda came Bais Dovid, Moshe was still the greatest Navi who ever lived and who ever spoke to God "face to face." Dovid was still Dovid Hamelech, who wrote Tehillim and died a Tzadik. From him will come Moshiach! But they were human! I told him it really bothers me that there are apologetics for these great people that mitigate their actions. This lessens the impact of what we are supposed to learn from these stories.

Well, this rav leaned back and told me something I didn't know before. He told these apologetics, which he agrees absolutely lessen, if not destroy the lesson we are supposed to learn from these stories, are wrong. Unfortunately, the Yeshivish world, which has a tendency to place all Gedolim on a pedestal of infallibility, especially people from Tanach, Mishna, and Gemara, does just that. They can't imagine that these great people messed up, so there must be some other explanation. When the Gemara says Dovid did not commit and aveira, it doesn't mean that what Dovid did wasn't wrong. It means there is one aspect of what he did, said this rav, for which we can find a technicality that will show Dovid did not actually sleep with a married woman. It was a time of war. In those days, a married soldier would write his wife a Get, a divorce decree, that would go into effect retroactively to the moment he gives her that Get, should the soldier get killed or go missing. Well, since Uria died in battle, the get technically went into effect from the moment he gave it to Bas-Sheva, and thus, Dovid did not actually sleep with a married woman. That's it. No apologetics. Dovid still did the wrong thing. Absolutely, 100%. Even sleeping with a married woman, and he took care of that technicality by having Uria killed on the front lines. But Dovid did Teshuva, said the rav, and continued to be Dovid Hamelech.

The problem with the Yeshivish/Chareidi approach is this, continued the rav. It's that when you put someone on a pedestal of infallibility, there is no way to aspire to be like that person. How can someone become a Malach? How can someone aspire to be infallible?

The Netziv, he told me, was not some genius child. He was not exceptional in any way. But he worked hard and became the Netziv. He was a human being who overcame some difficulties to become the great talmid chacham he became.

Putting people on a pedestal is the perfect set-up for a crash. Gedolim, past and present, are not infallible and they are not perfect. In the story of Kamtza/bar-Kamtza, everyone, including the chachamim sitting at the seuda, and Rabbi Zecharya for not allowing a korban from the emperor with a blemish on it to be sacrificed in the Bais Hamikdash because of appearances, all messed up. There is no way around it. The only person who didn't mess up in the story was the Roman general sent to lay siege to Yerushalayim. He realized this isn't something with in which he should be involved and became Jewish instead. He learned the lesson the Egyptians didn't: Just because a tragedy is decreed upon the Jewish people, doesn't mean you have to be the one to carry out the sentence. Let someone else take that responsibility.

This rav ended by telling me a story about Reb Moshe Feinstein. The story is related in the Artscroll biography on Reb Moshe, but it is related wrong. In the Artscroll biography, it tells the story of Reb Moshe preparing to get into a cab. The cabbie accidentally slammed the door on Reb Moshe's hand and Reb Moshe, in great pain said nothing and allowed the door his hand to remain in stuck in the duck for the duration of the ride. The Artscroll biography here tries to show the middos of Reb Moshe that he did not want to embarrass the cabbie.

Here's the story, as related to my rav, by a close relative of Reb Moshe. Reb Moshe did not keep his hand in the door, and the cabbie was aware of what had happened and immediately opened the door to release Reb Moshe's hand. When Reb Moshe arrived at the yeshiva and people saw he was in pain, he said he had accidentally closed the door on his own hand, thus deflecting blame from the cabbie and avoiding the cabbie being embarrassed or yelled at.

In the first version, Reb Moshe is not human! No one would have been able to stand that kind of pain for so long. What lesson is learned here?

In the true version, look what a great man Reb Moshe was! He made sure the cabbie would not be blamed, yelled at, or worse. He took the blame himself. After all, everything that happens is from Hashem! Why should the cabbie take the blame for that?

Instead of putting Gedolim under some kind of halo of perfection, perhaps, if we see them as the humans they were and are, we could learn so much more from them! Nobody but God is perfect, and we can learn from the imperfections of the gedolim how conduct ourselves.

See follow-ups on this article here (Part II) and here (Part III).

Sunday, March 18, 2007

Yoatzot Halacha - What They Are Really About

About three or four years ago, when I still belonged to a certain shul in Los Angeles that was on its way to going the way of the Yeshivish Chareidi, chumras and all, the rabbi of the shul went up to give his Shabbos Drasha. Now, usually, these drashas are supposed to be divrei Torah that deal with that week's parasha and maybe even tie in the parasha to current events. The best reason, and my favorite, I've heard for rabbis being very dliigent in giving a drasha every shabbos, or in their absence, making sure someone else did, was that for many people, this was the only time they had any kind of learning during the entire week. B"H, this is no longer the case for most people, but the "Mesora" goes on.

That week, Rabbi S, as we'll call him, stepped up to the lectern and began railing against this group of women who have decided to bypass all the rabbanim who have spent years, sometimes even a decade or more, learning for their semichas in Yoreh Deia and Mar'os, and paskin halacha for women who have Niddah questions (or, in the vernacular, Shailos). These women, he said, are overturning the system we've had in place for years! They are paskining halachah that took rabbanim years to learn! This is the danger of such institutions as Nishmat (from which arose this organization) and evil women like "Rabbanit" (read quotaion marks in his words, not mine) Henkin and her ilk!

The women against whom Rabbi S railed are known as Yoaztot Halacha. Their orzanization exists solely to help women with Nidda questions.

Rabbi S went on for about twenty minutes, making it very clear what he thought about this organization and these women. Unfortunately, he made a big mistake. He should have checked his facts before making accusations that women are becoming rabbis and are undermining the authority of rabbanim worldwide. His facts were wrong, and the loshon hara he accepted unquestioningly and relayed with the utmost confidence as truth was false and was meant only to put these women in a false light.

You see, my wife went to Nishmat and when I asked her about Yoatzot Halacha, she had nothing but good things to say about them. She said they are a wonderful, anonymous organization to which women who are otherwise embarrassed to ask these types of questions may turn and ask their questions anonymously, without any embarrassment at all. This is an organization for women who might otherwise not ask the questions they need to ask. It is an organization that prevents so many people from transgressing the extremely severe sin of having marital relations while still a Niddah! And, most importantly, my wife told me, these women, no matter how knowledgeable, never, EVER take halacha into their own hands and never, EVER answer a question without first consulting with one of the many rabbanim on staff and telling those rabbanim, without ever revealing the identity of ther person asking the question, in minute detail exactly what each situation is.

The way the organization works is that a woman will call in, ask her question, and will be asked specifics about her case. Armed with this information, they will then relay the question and all its details to a rav who is an expert in this area. If the rav needs more information, he will tell the Yoetzet what information he needs. The Yoetzet will call the woman back, ask these questions, and will go back to the rav with the additional information. The rav, always making sure he has the information he needs, will then make an informed decision and will instruct the Yoetzet exactly what to say. The Yoetzet will then call the woman back with the answer to her question. At no time will a Yoetzet just answer a question without first consulting a rav. Further, if the woman prefers, the Yoetzet Halacha will even contact that person's rav and ask him the question! Hence, no rav's authority is threatened and no power is being taken from any rav.

Finally, are these women any different than a rebbetzin was in the old days in Europe? When a women in the shtetl had a question along these lines, she didn't go speak to the rav! She asked the rav's wife, who asked her husband! How is this any different?

So, this puts a totally different light on what a Yoetzet Halacha does! She is not interested in undermining rabbinic authority or in becoming a rabbi herself. That's silly. The entire purpose of this organization is simply to help women who would otherwise be embarrassed to ask this type of question. One must then ask: How many people have been saved from commiting a grievous sin because of these amazing women? Was it really worth wasting an entire Shabbos Drasha railing against something for which Rabbi S had faulty information at best? This Rabbi S of Los Angeles went and ruined the reputation of an organizatoin that does vast amounts of good for Klal Yisrael, all based on false accusations!

Once again, I say and truly believe, Rabbis need to know what they are talking about before they open their mouths, be it to give advice or to talk about organizations about which they really know nothing, or anything else, for that matter. Many rabbanim have a great power in their hands - they have their Kehillas collective ears and can influence them greatly. They should know all their facts before saying anything. It is not only the right thing to do, it is their responsibility and if they can't be bothered to be responsible for, then they should also not bother or be bothered to be rabbanim because when they don't act responsibly, they are no better, as I've mentioned before, than a butcher trying to perform surgery with a cleaver.

B"H for these Yoatzot Halacha. May we be zocheh to many more such women in our communities who help to make sure couples do not commit, b'shogeg or b'meizid, such a grievous aveira.

For more information about Yoatzot Halacha, click here to visit their website.

Wednesday, March 14, 2007

We Must Unlearn What We Have Learned

To paraphrase Yoda in The Empire Strikes Back, "We must unlearn what we have learned." We have all been raised with misconceptions about what is halacha and what is minhag, what is a mitzvah d'Oraisa and what is a chumra. And I think this is conclusion I've been headed toward since I began this blog last year; it is a conclusion toward which I will continue to head as I continue posting about these issues.

Many of the practices we follow today are minhag or chumras. Among them, to name a few, are glatt, second day Yom Tov, Kitniyos, and how long we keep between meat and dairy. Some of these issues are subjective as to how one should hold, but rabbanim today are afraid of banding together and saying we need change. I understand that the Chareidi world would never change what came before, and that's their choice. But for the rest of the Jewish world, with certain changes, we might even be able to bring people who have strayed from Yiddishkeit out of frustration back to the fold.

I think rabbinic leaders in the Modern Orthodox and Centrist camps need to stop being afraid of what groups to the right of them will say if the rabbinic leaders or the Modern Orthodox and Centrist camps certain rules, especially ones that are minhagim or chumras. Certain of these things would not even involve getting rid of minhagim that have been in place for hundreds of years, like having non-glatt kosher meat with a good hechsher on the market.

Someone said to me in a comment on Rabbi Maryles' blog, haemtza.blogspot.com, that for people like me there is Hebrew National. The truth is, if Hebrew National had an OU, OK, or other reliable hechsher on it, I would eat it, happily! From what I've heard, they make really good stuff. Someone from Chicago told me that Best's Kosher lost its CRC hechsher because the CRC began insisting that any meat to which they give a hechsher MUST be glatt, and Best's Kosher refused to capitulate! Is this a reason to punish someone, just because they don't want to take on a chumra that will incur higher production costs and thus cause the price of their products to jump in price as well?

In a dialogue I've had with a rav, his response to me was that we just don't have the authority to change what Chazal put in place, but I cannot accept this. Not because I don't believe Chazal knew what was best for their generation and perhaps a few generations down the line from them. Certainly they did. But I don't think they knew what be good for people living two thousand years after they had all died. I truly believe they would have made different decisions had they lived in our times. I truly believe second day of Yom Tov would not have even been a suggestion or an idea in their minds with the technology we have today and I think it was real Chutzpah to force people in Golus to continue to keep second day Yom Tov once the calendar was set. The truth is, even those living in Eretz Yisrael at the time and all the down to today are also in Golus and will continue to be in Golus until Moshiach arrives. Why shouldn't they keep two days' Yom Tov if they are using the same calendar as us?!

Obviously, the course Orthodox Judaism has been wrong, especially since the emancipation of European Jewry nearly three hundred years ago. Otherwise, we wouldn't be in a situation where about 98% of Jews are not shomrei Torah U'Mitzvos. The time for change has come and it's time for rabbis to stop being afraid of standing up and executing the changes needed. And anyone who wants to bring up the Slippery Slope idea, well, so far, the most slippery slope of all has been the rigidity and lack of taking initiative to make the changes necessary to retain and help Yiddishkeit grow.

Hashem gave us the guidelines in Torah She'B'Ksav in the form of 613 Mitzvos. Many have been added by Rabanan to create Gedarim necessary for their times. We were empowered to make Halacha and make changes when necessary. Chazal did so when they changed the system the Nevi'im had in place and the Nevi'im changed the system the Shoftim had in place. Some of these changes were disastrous, and some were not. I believe, with careful consideration and the intention of making changes L'Sheim Shamayim, that the "Slippery Slope" can be avoided and even reversed.

Am I an Apikores? That's for you, the reader to decide. I don't believe I am. I believe I'm trying to be practical and create an atmosphere of Ki Karov Eilecha, as I've mentioned in earlier posts.

The Term "Hashkafa"

"Hashkafa" is an interesting term many people fall back on, both from the right and from the left, when discussing their Jewish ideological outlook. In truth, however, this word is a bad word! It comes from the same root as the words Lehashkif, Vayashkifu, Vayashkaif - that root being Shin Kuf Peh - Shakaf.

We see this word and Rashi's first commentary on it in Parshas Vayeira, when the malachim finish their mission to inform Avraham that he will have a son from Sarah a year later. The Possuk says "Vayashkifu Al Pnei Sdom" - they gazed toward Sodom. Rashi, in discussing the word Vayashkifu - and they gazed, tells us any place it used this word, or any form of it - except for one place in Torah when we ask God to gaze down upon us from Shamayim and bless us - usually foresees something bad about to happen.

Unfortunately, we see the very nature of this word taking place within klal Yisrael today. We see people saying their Hashkafa doesn't allow such and such, it only allows for more and more chumras. We see people hiding behind their Hashkafa to give them an excuse to perpetuate inexcusable behavior, be it creating the concept of "mehadrin" busses in Israel, throwing bleach at people not dressed according to their standards (I deliberately left out the term "high standards" because I don't think this is what Tznius is about). The concept of Hashkafa allows the continued lifestyle of married men learning in Yeshiva/Kollel indefinitely, leaving the entire onus of parnassa upon their wives, parents, and in-laws. The concept of Hashkafa allows certain rabbanim and shuls to be exclusionary when a Jew not of the same "Hashkafa" as them tries to join, be it anything the person not wearing a black hat to a person not willing to send their children for indefinite yeshiva educations.

I find this behavior deplorable. I've known rabbis who hate, and I mean really HATE people not of their Hashkafa, and I've seen their talmidim swallow up these rabbis' diatribes as if they were Torah M'Sinai.

It's time to stop hiding behind this artificial, and as I see it, evil curtain called "Hashkafa" and start behaving toward other Jews with love and kindness, not with bitterness and hatred just because one person doesn't meet another's criteria for being "frum." Frum doesn't mean wearing the uniform. It really means how one acts toward a fellow Jew, and if one person steals from, tells Loshon Hara about, or in any way mistreats another Jew, be it physically or spiritually, then that person needs to reexamine their "Hashkafa" because the one they have is not working.

Perhaps the solution is to chuck out the word "Hashkafa" and look for another term that does not have such negative connotations to it. The way the Orthodox Jewish world is fractured today, I don't think anyone can take the one time the word hashkafa is used in the Torah and apply it to what people widely lilke to call their "Hashkafa" today.

Sunday, March 11, 2007

Glatt Meat and Chalav Yisrael: Chumras and the Kosher Tax

Having done a bit of research about the halachas of glatt meat, here is the conlusion I've learned: Glatt is not a halacha for Ashkenazic Jews. It is a minhag widely held by Sephardim. In Europe, Ashkenazic Jews ate both Glatt and non-glatt meat. A full article can be found at the Star K's site. Having spoken to many people who have worked in the kosher meat market, I've found out the reason glatt meat is so expensive: Approximately 70% of all cows shechted al pi halacha are considered to be non-glatt for various reasons and are thrown into the Traif pile to be sold at a loss as traif meat (you know, the kind you find at any supermarket and costs about 1/3 or 1/4 the price of kosher meat). Add to this that since Ashkenazim do not have a Mesora of Traiboring, we also lose the entire back half of the cow to traif. All this is at a loss, since the meat considered not glatt and the back half of the cow has to meet the price the non kosher vendors are willing to pay for meat they buy elsewhere for less. However, the shochtim and mashgichim still need to be paid, so for each cow lost to it being non glatt and for each back end of the cow, we, as the end use consumers, pay for through the nose. And this only applies to meat. Poultry is a whole other reason I've yet to discover as to why we pay at least triple the price of non kosher poultry since there is no such thing as glatt where poultry is concerned.

What does all this mean? It means that the rabbanim and the kosher slaughterhouses have done a wonderful job of marketing over the last 30 or so years in saying it's not really kosher if it is not glatt. The proof: Can anyone out there find non-glatt meat that has a reliable hechsher on it sold in the same quantities as glatt meat? The answer: No. Because the glatt meat never has a chance to be sold as kosher! Instead of throwing all those non glatt but perfectly kosher cows into the non-glatt but perfectly kosher pile, a pile from which many perfectly orthodox Jews, including myself and my rav, are very happy to buy, cook, and eat in their houses.

Essentially, glatt meat is a Chumra that caught on to the extent that the rest of us who don't want to keep this chumra are forced to keep this chumra because there is no non-glatt meat available! Now, if someone wants to keep glatt kosher, I'm not one to say don't do it. But why do I have to pay the kosher tax for someone else to hold by a chumra?

Now, the same thing didn't happen with Chalav Yisrael. This Chumra, while widespread, especially amongst Chasidim and, more recently, the Yeshivish (which is interesting, considering I remember the days when the Yeshivish used to deride Chalav Yisrael as a silly Chumra that Reb Moshe Feinstein said need not be kept any longer). The reason Chalav Yisrael never really took over as the kosher dairy standard the way glatt did as the kosher meat standard is that there are far too many dairy products out there that people weren't willing to give up and were already kosher and cheaper than Chalav Yisrael and didn't spoil as quickly as Chalav Yisrael products. Besides, given the choice between Leiber's sandwich cookies and Oreo cookies, which would you take?

So, because frum organizations did not have a monopoly over non-Jewish-yet-kosher dairy products, Chalav Yisrael never caught on, while the meat, which only came from frum companies that held a monopoly over kosher meat, were able to force glatt meat to become the only standard available to orthodox Jews since there is no non-Jewish company that produces kosher meat. Thus, these frum companies were able to force any price they want for kosher meat.

At the end of the day, with the excellent marketing these meat companies have done, we are all forced to pay way too much money for meat. One realistic solution is for these companies to take the non-glatt meat they shecht and put it on the market as non-glatt, but perfectly kosher meat! Thus, anyone who wants to be machmir and buy glatt meat can do so and pay the price, while the rest of us, who are sick of paying so much money for glatt meat, will happily buy non-glatt meat, and if you don't want to eat in my house because I don't keep the glatt Chumra, then don't eat in my house. People who keep Chalav Yisrael have chosen not to eat dairy from my house, including my parents and my sister. Does this make me any less frum in their eyes? No.

Monday, March 05, 2007

Shushan Purim...

Rabbi Harry Maryles, on his blog Emes Ve'Emunah, posted a very funny, totally satirical post yesterday, and commenting on it was lots of fun, and even people who for the rest of the year do not get along with each other had a fun time dialoguing with each other. I posted a comment there I would like to repost here. You can see Rabbi Maryles' post here.

Once you've read the post, if you go to the comments, you will see some fun poking and jabbing, but everything in good nature. The 16th post is mine and is reprinted below, with some revision:

I hate to inject a serious note into all this, but wouldn't it be great if we could all get along like this the rest of the year as well? Wouldn't it be great if when one person said something controversial, instead of attacking that person, a dialogue was held with cooler heads prevailing (pardon the pun)? Many frum people today have lots of questions as to the validity of many things we do that are done just because they've been done for hundreds or thousands of years, and some just for a couple of decades. I've touched on many of these before, like second day Yom Tov, Kitniyos, Glatt meat, etc, and I will discuss them at greater length in the future as well.

When my grandfather was a young boy in cheder, if he asked a question the rebbi didn't like, he got smacked. If he was on the wrong page, he got smacked. He grew up to absolutely hate yiddishkeit, all aspects of it, because he was left with such a bitter taste in his mouth. I'm saying he was right, but he wasn't the only one. My father in law had the same experiences and is still alive and isn't very fond of Orthodox Judaism either. And he doesn't see the difference between MO, Centrist, RW, Yeshivish, or Chareidim. To him, it's all Orthodox. The attitude of "We don't like what you're saying and instead of discussing we're going to attack you" has caused the loss of many neshamos.

My grandfather, in his hatred of Judaism, had himself cremated after his death, and because his wife was alive at the time (not my grandmother), there was nothing we could do, at all to stop the cremation. My father ended up with no shiva, no shloshim, no kaddish, no nothing because when his father asked a question, he got smacked. And smacking doesn't necessarily mean physically today. It also means with words.

I think this is the lesson of Purim: It starts off with Yeshno Am Echad Mefozar U'Meforad, and ends up with everyone celebrating the same thing, the same cause, the same victory - with no machlokesim in sight. In fact, I think it's likely the original Purim, right before the formation of the Knesses Hagedola, marked the last time there were no Machlokesim. Instead, as it was the time when Bnai Yisrael accepted the Torah voluntarily, without a mountain hanging over their heads, the last time there was total Achdus.

Yehi Ratzon that we should be Zocheh to celebrate that kind of original Purim again B'Meheira B'Yameinu.

Sunday, March 04, 2007

Happy Purim! A short idea from Parashas Zachor...

The third posuk in Parashas Zachor is Hashem commanding the Jewish People to destroy Amalek once they have inherited the land He has given them. The word used for inherit is "L'Rishtah," with a dagesh, a dot, in the the letter Hey. Without the Dagesh, the posk would translate as "in the land Hashem, your God, is giving to you as an inheritance." With the Dagesh, and with the correct translation, the posuk translate as "in the land Hashem, your god is giving to you to inherit." The difference is that in the case with the Dagesh, Hashem is not giving the land as a gift. He is going to make us work for it. We are going to have to inherit it, put in our hishtadlus, conquer it and hold on to it and only after this is achieved can we go about the work of eliminating Amalek.

What is that Hishtadlus? We have to work not only to keep the land but to be deserving of the land and all that comes with it. It doesn't mean sitting in Kollel and expecting it to be given to you. It doesn't mean that just because we are sitting on the land that we deserve it automatically. It DOES mean we need to work for it every day and every night. We need to work for what we need and want. And this was Mordechai's message to Esther. She was afraid to go before the king. Mordechai admonished her and told her not to expect to just sit back and be saved just because she is the queen. If she wants to survive this crisis, Mordechai tells her, she will have to work at it just as hard as everyone else and the protection of the king will not help her. Esther takes this message to heart and decides to put in her hishtadlus and work to save not just herself, but her entire nation.

This is the message of Purim. It is the time the Jews finally accepted the Torah voluntarily - Kiyimu v'Kiblu - they upheld and accepted, and once they did, this led to the return to Eretz Yisroel and the rebuilding of the Bais Hamikdash. And when that message got lost, with all its nuances on how to work to retain the land Hashem was giving them to inherit, they lost it again, forgetting that inheriting the land was, and still is, a continuous struggle against the Yetzer Hara, in whatever form it takes, and involves great Mesiras Nefesh.

Yehi Ratzon that in the Zchus of all of us accepting and understanding the message of Purim, we will merit to return home to inherit our land permanently b'meheira b'yameinu.

Chag Purim Sameach

Sunday, February 11, 2007

Rabbi Natan (formerly Nosson) Slifkin

This is going to be a pretty short post as this subject has been discussed on numerous blogs many times. I just wanted to put in my two cents (please forgive the cliche).

My wife and I just purchased two of Rabbi Slifkin's seforim, Mysterious Creatures, which discusses mythological creatures from a Torah standpoint, and his latest, a revamp of a previous sefer, The Challenge of Creation.

Neither my wife nor I really understand how people who are considered Gedolei Yisroel (though by what criteria, I'm not quite sure) can put a person and his materials in cherem when though don't even really know what the material they are banning really discusses, while other roshei yeshiva give hascamas to their students' books that are basically Nazism - discussing the superiority of the Jewish people, saying how all others are sub-human and not worthy to walk the earth - without even reading those books. This was the case of a book a student from Lakewood Yeshiva wrote. His Rosh Yeshiva gave it a hascama, which he did retract when he was actually told what the book said. However, shouldn't that rosh yeshiva, a man considered a gadol b'Yisroel, have read, or at least skimmed the book, before giving it a hascama? And yet as as gadol, according the chareidi/Yeshivish world, he is infallible, as all gedolim are, apparently. So how did he make this mistake?

Answer: Gedolim are indeed fallible, be they modern day rabbis or Chazal, or the Nevi'im, or even Moshe Rabbeinu himself. Yes, Moseh Rabbeinu was fallible and even made mistakes. God told him to speak the rock, and Moshe hit it. I don't care how the meforshim try to dress up his actions to make it seem like he did not goof. He did, and for that goof, Moshe did not get to go into Eretz Yisroel. Period.

And there are so many stories like that in Tanach. Adam Harishon? He goofed. He knew full well what he was being fed. Or how about the story of Yehuda and Tamar. I don't care how the Meforshim like to dress up Yehuda's actions. At the end of the day, he saw a prostitute on the road and decided to sleep with her. And when the time came, he didn't say "I couldn't have possibly made a mistake." He said: "Tsodka Memeni." "She was right and I was wrong." Dovid Hamelech owned up to his mistakes, and he was punished for them. Chizkiyahu Hamelech decided not to have children because he saw in Ruach Hakodesh what Menashe would do. He was punished and continued to be punished until he changed his mind.

The stories go on and on. Nobody is infallible. A man cannot live a lifetime and not sin. These apologetics that exonerate people because we can't imagine them goofing up must stop.

Back to Rabbi Slifkin. He was put into cherem because some people decided to take words and sentences out of context and use them as proof that he was being a heretic. It's disgusting, and the fact that modern day "gedolim" allow themselves to be controlled by their "handlers," their Meshamshiim who restrict access to these "gedolim," who should be accessible to all, is in itself a fallacy they must rectify if there is ever to be a healing in the ever growing rift in Klal Yisroel.

Wednesday, February 07, 2007

Were the Jedi Yeshivish?

Well, let's see. They wore their uniform and walked around with complete arrogance. They were completely inflexible in their ways. They couldn't see disaster looming right in front of them. They wouldn't listen to the voice of reason that times they were 'a changin' (Qui-Gon), and they were manipulative to the nth degree, especially when it came to Anakin.

I'd say, yeah, that sounds pretty Yeshivish/Chareidi to me.

The Yeshivish/Chareidi world is crashing in on itself. They are becoming more and more a fringe segment of the Jewish nation. Much of what they do and how they act is no more Frum than how Reform Jews act. Neither acts according to Halacha. Chareidim/Yeshivish people hate normative/Centrist/Modern Orthodox Judaism and does not see it as kosher Judaism. They spew hateful slanders at anyone not like them. This is not right. If they are secure in their faith, they needn't spew at others, and if they are insecure, which, I suspect, is what is really going on, they need to figure out why and fix it.

That's all. Short one this time.

Next: Rabbi Natan Slifkin

Tuesday, February 06, 2007

Bas Kol - Epilogue

Hiskatnus Hadoros, misquoted pesukim, missing the point, probably on purpose, twisting stories to make them look like they favor all this. Are we, at the end of the day, victims of some kind of mind control? Is religion truly the opiate of the masses? Must we always tow the party line, to use a political term? Has our religion, the religion of Emes, become just a political means of controlling the people?

I don't know. But I do know that many Chareidim, Yeshivish people, and the like, pretend the outside world has no effect on the frum one. This is pure sheker. Look at the political climate of the the US. People belonging to certain parties are happy to tow their party's line. Just tell them what to do, and they'll do it, since it MUST be for the good of the many. Why think when we have religious and political figures to do the thinking for us?

However, putting all this together, the price of being frum, the cost of living in frum neighborhoods, having to follow certain minhagim and halachas that seem unnecessary, the state of the Jewish Nation, the hatred of the chareidim toward everyone who is not like them. I had a Rosh Yeshiva whose "hashkafa" sessions were hate filled tirades against the Conservative congregation that dominated his neighborhood, a neighborhood to which he had come in order to do kiruv. I can tell you, he is not, to this day, doing a particularly good job of it. 90% of the Jewish Population there hates him. And I mean, really hate him!

Here's where I think things went, and are still going, wrong: The possuk says "do not deviate right or left." This is not just an admonition against not being frum, or becoming an Oved Avoda Zara. This is an admonition to not becoming too "frum" as well. It's an admonition that when you become too fanatical, you lose people faster and faster.

I'm a big fan of Star Wars. In the very original one from 1977, there is a scene that I think succinctly puts this into perspective. Princess Leia is brought before Grand Moff Tarkin, who proceeds to boast about the Death Star's destructive power and that no one in the galaxy will dare oppose the Emperor now that he has the power to destroy an entire planet with one blast. Princess Leia comes back with a particularly sharp retort (using a a false British accent, of course). She says to Tarkin, "The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers." This is what has historically happened the Frumkeit in general. The more the grip has been tightened, the more people slipped through. People need guidance, loving guidance, not control. If only the Rabbanim in general would have been, historically, more confident in their abilities as leaders and been open to listening to concerns, would we be in the situation in which we find ourselves today? Divrei Chachamim B'Nachas Nishmaim - the words of the wise are heard softly, which means they need to be spoken softly to be heard softly. Instead, concerns were not taken into consideration, and many angry Jews decided to just leave the fold completely or deviate to all sorts of directions, not just Yamin or Smol, right or left. I would like to end this little tirade with a poem with which most people to I've spoken to are familiar. It's entitled "Moshiach's Hat:"

'T was the night of the Geulah, -- And in every single Shtiebel
Sounds of Torah could be heard -- Coming from every kind of Yeedel.
This one in English, -- Some in Hebrew, some in Yiddish.
Some saying P'shat -- And some saying a Chiddish.
And up in Shamayim--The Aibishter decreed:
"The time has come -- For My children to be freed.
"Rouse the Moshiach -- From his heavenly berth.
Have him get in his chariot, -- And head down to earth.
"The Moshiach got dressed -- And with a heart full of glee,
Went down to earth and entered -- the first Shtiebel he did see.
"I am the Moshiach! -- Hashem has heard your plea!
Your Geulah has come! -- It's time to go free!
"They all stopped their learning; -- This was quite a surprise.
And they look at him carefully, -- With piercing sharp eyes
"He's not the Moshiach!" -- Said one with a grin,
"Just look at his hat, -- At the pinches and brim!"
"That's right!" cried another -- With a grimace and frown,
"Whoever heard of Moshiach, -- With a brim that's turned down?"
"Well," thought Moshiach, -- "If this is the rule,
I'll turn my brim up -- Before I go to the next shul."
So he walked right on over -- To the next shul in town.
Sure to be accepted, -- Since his brim was no longer down.
"I'm, the Moshiach!" he cried, -- As he began to enter
But the Jews wanted to know first -- If he was Left Right or Center
"Your clothes are so black!" -- They cried out in fright.
"You can't be Moshiach--You're much too far right!"
"If you want to be Moshiach, -- You must be properly outfitted.
"So they replaced his black hat -- With a Kippah that was knitted.
Wearing his new Kippah, -- Moshiach went out and said:
"No difference to me -- What I wear on my head.
"So he went to the next shul, -- For his mission was dear.
But he was getting frustrated -- With the Yidden down hear.
"I'm the Moshiach!" he cried, -- And they all stopped to stare,
And a complete eerie stillness -- Filled up the air.
"You're the Moshiach?! -- Just imagine that!
Whoever heard of Moshiach -- Without a black hat?"
"But I do have a hat!" -- The Moshiach then said.
So he pulled it right out -- And plunked it down on his head.
Then the shul started laughing, -- And one said " Where's your kop?
You can't have Moshiach -- With a brim that's turned up!
If you want to be Moshiach -- And be accepted in this town,
"Put some pinches in your hat -- And turn that brim down!"
Moshiach walked out and said: -- "I guess my time hasn't come.
I'll just return -- To where I came from.
"So he went to his chariot, -- But as he began to enter,
All sorts of Jews appeared -- From the Left, Right, and Center.
"Please wait - do not leave. -- It's all their fault!" they said,
And they pointed to each other -- And to what was on each other's head.
Moshiach just looked sad -- And said, " You don't understand."
And then started up his chariot -- To get out of this land.
"Yes, it's very wonderful -- That you all learn Torah,
But you seem to have forgotten -- A crucial part of our Mesorah.
"What does he mean?" -- "What's he talking about?"
And they all looked bewildered, -- And they all began to shout.
Moshiach looked back and answered, -- "The first place to start,
Is to shut up your mouths -- And open your hearts.
"To each of you, certain Yidden -- Seem too Frum or too Frei,
But all Yidden are beloved -- in the Aibishter's eye."
And on his way up he shouted: -- " If you want me to come,
Try working a little harder -- On some Ahavat Chinam!"

Next up: Were the Jedi Yeshivish? (I've been wanting to do this one for a LOOOONNNNGGGG time!!:)

Monday, February 05, 2007

Bas Kol - Conclusion

So what have all these Gedarim left us? Some 95% - 98% of Jews are no longer halacha following, whatever the reasons may be. The Reform movement was a result of some angry people who were tired of being held back. We are told to have Emunas Chachamim because they knew best and halacha can therefore not be changed. Nor can minhagim that are practically considered halacha.

Examples:

Second day of Yom Tov. Hillel Hakatan came up with and set the calendar. From then on, we all know when Yom Tov is. However, the chachamim of the day admonished those living far enough outside of Eretz Yisrael (who up to that point had to keep two days of Yom Tov because notification of the new month would not reach them in time) to be careful about observing Minhag Avoseichem - the customs of their fathers. The only reason those people kept two days of Yom Tov was because they weren't sure up to that point when Yom Tov was, so they created the best system they could FOR THEIR TIME PERIOD by creating a second day of Yom Tov to be sure they did not violate Yom Tov. However, they were then told to continue keeping two days of Yom Tov just because they were in Chutz La'Aretz. So here's the question: Let's say they had had telephones, or even telegraphs back in those days (forget faxes, email, and the internet - let's just go with something as primitive as a telegram). Information regarding the new month would only take moments, maybe hours, to reach pretty much anywhere. Would people in Bavel or further have kept two day Yom Tov then? I would say absolutely not!! The only reason there was a concept of second day Yom Tov was only to be sure Yom Tov would not be violated. With a telegraph system in place, this geder would not have been necessary and the concept would never have come up! But here we are, some 1700-1800 years after Hillel Hakatan set the calendar, and we still have to keep a completely obsolete Minhag! Why? No one have EVER given me a good reason. EVER!! And if we do have to keep it based on the calendar set by Hillel Hakatan, why do those living in Israel not need to do so? They don't have a Beis Din deciding when Rosh Chodesh is any more than those living outside of Eretz Yisrael do! Shouldn't we be deciding halacha based on the times in which we live? I'm not saying change Halacha that is immutable, like keeping Shabbos and Kashrus. I'm talking about Halacha that was set by Chachamim based on the times in which they lived. Had they had access to technology such as ours, second day Yom Tov would never have been necessary, and probably would not have even come up for discussion! And yet we are told now that we have to keep it because of Minhag Avoseinu. I still haven't heard a GOOD reason.

Kitniyos! Again, Pesach is only 7 days long (ok, eight outside of Israel). If you eat Gebrokhts, not a problem, life's good. I've made stuff that tastes just like Chametz. Couldn't tell the difference at all. But here, you have stuff you know is Muttar to eat on Pesach, as Sephardim do eat Kitniyos on Pesach. And yet, the Ashkenazic rabbis simply decided: Nope. You can't have Kitniyos on Pesach. WHY?! Why did they decide to make the muttar assur? As we know from the Vidui of Rabbeinu Nissim, we are NOT supposed to do that: "That which you have permitted, I forbade, and what you have forbidden, I have permitted." This is part of a Vidui. We saying sorry for doing something we were NOT supposed to do. And here, we have our chachamim making assur that which is muttar, be it Kitniyos or being forced to keep second day Yom Tov.

Here's a good one: How long to not eat dairy after eating meat. Love this one. The source for this is in Chulin, Daf 105A, which says you're not supposed to eat meat and dairy in the same meal, but should wait until the next one. There, Mar Ukva relates how his father will not eat dairy after a meat meal, but rather will wait until the next day. Mar Ukva himself will not eat it at the same meal, but will have it at the next one. This started the controversy as to what ‘until the next meal’ means. Tosphos on daf 105a in Chulin explains that as long as one has cleared the table after the meal and benched, then one may begin a new meal with dairy. Rambam explains the waiting because meat can get stuck in teeth longer than other foods. Another reason is that it takes approximately six hours to digest meat. Because he says about six hours and not just six, some people interpret this to mean that 5 ½ of waiting is allowed. He also connects it to health issues and idolatry. The Shulchan Aruch says that one must wait six hours for meat, including birds, even if one has just been grinding up food for a baby and not really eating. This is the type of minhag that should really be dependent upon the time and place in which one lives. But here, we're told that once adopted, we cannot change it. At all. Period. End of story! That's just ridiculous!

As I mentioned in previous posts, there are many Pesukim that are quoted completely out of context to give the Chachamim carte blanche to decide all halacha for all time. None of those pesukim actually say this. The one oft quoted in Devarim of not deviating left or right from all they tell you to do is a particular favorite one to be quoted. However, the context does not allow for this carte blanche. At the end of the day, those who have quoted these pesukim out of context should really be no better than the missionaries who quote pesukim out of context from Yesha'ayahu and other Nevi'im to prove that Yeshke was truly the son of God and the Messiah! Seriously, what is the difference? Why are they wrong but the chachamim right? I find the basis for all this to be truly rickety and not in any way a solid foundation at all. I need answers. And the ones from all you out there who like to take things on blind faith. That's a very Christian response, and I have no interest in Christianity. Talk about a false religion! When Christian "Gedolim" are asked about the blatant contradictions in their "bible," the answer given is "some things just have to be taken on faith" or some gibberish like that. Judaism, true Judaism, is, or at least should be, a thinking religion, not a controlling one.

Ki Karov Eilecha - How does it relate to me, today, not to someone who live two or three thousand years ago? We find clearly written in the Gemara, as in the case of meat after dairy, that the minhagim were set up based on what a person did, when he ate. If, as many in weight management say, we should be eating five smaller meals a day rather than three large ones, should we not only wait between those meals? This is what I mean by how does halacha pertain to us, today. Why should we keep two days of Yom Tov today? Even without Hillel Hakatan, our scientific knowledge has progressed enough to EXACTLY when the Molad of the moon is, down to the second!! Wouldn't you say this is a much more accurate way of measuring when the new month starts than a couple of Eidim seeing the new moon?

Ki Karov Eilecha - It should be a pleasure to observe Judaism, not a burden. When Halach was set down, it was set down based on how they lived then, not on how we live today. Today.

I am finding many inconsistencies in how we practice Orthodox Judaism today. I don't have any answers. I wish I did. I still send my kids to frum schools, still pay the exorbitant price of kosher food and Jewish education, still live in the better neighborhood in which I can't afford to live because we need to be in a Jewish community. But for what? It's so frustrating!

I think the Gemara missed the point with the Bas Kol story. When that Bas Kol boomed out and declared that Rabbi Eliezer was correct, God meant to hint to Chachamim that halacha is not set, that it can change depending on circumstance. We all know the danger of learning Igros Moshe: We are supposed to use it as a guideline, not a tool with which to Paskin halacha, as each case Reb Moshe Feinstein paskined was unique and had its own set of circumstances that may not apply to other people with the seemingly same question. The point of the Bas Kol was while Torah is not mutable, halacha is based on circumstances. And even the possuk the Chachamim use (out of context, by the way) of "Lo BaShamayim He" proves this point exactly: It's not in Heaven, so far away that we cannot fathom it. It's here, on earth, for us to learn and apply to us as we live our lives TODAY. That's what chachamim did. They applied it to their day. Had circumstances been different, different halachas would have been paskined because the chachamim would have looked at THEIR circumstances, as indeed they did, and paskined Halacha BASED on THEIR circumstances. And while there certainly has been hiskatnus hadoros, which seems to scare people from changing anything, and a Mesorah, which further prevents halachic decisions being made based on when a particular generation lives, Yiddishkeit is about, at its core, the concept of Ki Karove Eilecha - It is close to us, as it pertains to US, not some fluffy ideal of thousands of years ago. Perhaps if more past Gedolei Yisrael had taken this into account, maybe Frum Judaism would not be the minority of Jewish people.

Monday, January 22, 2007

Bas Kol, Part Two

Where do we go from here? For nearly 2500 (yes, two thousand five hundred) years, the system has not changed. If anything, it's become worse!

Here is the Bas Kol Story:

The Gemara relates the following episode. There was a dispute between R' Eliezer and the chachamim, regarding taharos (what is considered spiritually pure or impure). R' Eliezer ruled that the matter under discussion was tahor, pure, while the majority opinion was that it was tamei (impure). Even though R' Eliezer brought many proofs that the halacha follows his view, nevertheless the chachamim did not accept them. He then proceeded to alter the course of nature to convince the Sages. He said 'Let this carob tree, water canal and the walls of the Beis Medrash (study hall) prove I am right.' Immediately the carob tree was uprooted one hundred amos (cubits), (some say four hundred cubits). The water began to flow backwards, and the walls of the Beis Medrash began to lean. All this did not faze the Rabbis, and they responded that one cannot prove that he is correct from supernatural phenomena. For since R' Eliezer was a tzaddik, his request would have been fulfilled even if he was wrong. Finally, R' Eliezer said 'Let the Heavens prove that I am right.' A Bas Kol (Heavenly echo) then proclaimed 'Why are you arguing with R' Eliezer? The halacha always follows his opinion.' R' Eliezer had apparently proved his case. Yet, the Chachamim stood their ground. R' Yehoshua declared 'It (the Torah) is not in Heaven (Devarim 30:12). We do not listen to a Bas Kol because at Har Sinai we received the Torah and it is written, "According to the majority the matter shall be decided." (Shemos 23:2). Therefore the Rabbis who were the majority ruled that it is tamei and the halacha follows their opinion.

The Gemara concludes that Eliyahu Hanavi told R' Nassan that when R' Yehoshua ignored the Bas Kol, Hashem laughed and said: "My children were victorious over Me." The Chinuch explains that in truth, R' Eliezer was right, as the Bas Kol had demonstrated. However, since the chachamim were in and the majority and they did not agree with R' Eliezer's reasoning, the Torah's own clause dictated their right to override the truth. Thus the truth was defeated.

When the Gemara tells this story, and when we read it, it glorifies the power of the Jewish people, specifically the Rabbis, the dictate Halacha, while at the same time saying God has no place dictating Halacha. Again - the quote of "Lo Bashamayim He" - It [the Torah] is not in heaven, is taken out of context. As I mentioned in a previous post, when read in context, this possuk means that Torah is accessible to all, not in heaven, not far away. Everyone can learn, to the best of their ability. It has nothing to do with God not being allowed to dictate Halacha! In fact, if God does not dictate Halacha, WHO DOES?!?! Didn't God WRITE the Torah? Is he not the one who said "Anochi Hashem Elokecha," as well as the rest of the 613 Mitzvos? Further, if we all say the Chachamim were Divinely inspired - how much more Divine Inspiration can one ask for than a Bas Kol booming down from Heaven declaring the halacha is like Rabbi Eliezer?!

Karl Marx, in his 1843 book, Critique of Hegel's Philosophy of Right, said a very famous quote, one shunned and ridiculed by many religious people of all walks: "Religion is the opium of the people," though this quote is commonly translated as: "Religion is the opiate of the masses." This has been the excuse in Orthodox Judaism for centuries now! Let the rabbis do the deciding and thinking for us and we will follow like robots. As long as the rabbis say it is correct or incorrect, we just follow instructions and take the thinking entirely out of the process. Don't believe me? Check out this link, where I got an ok translation of the Rabbi Eliezer story mentioned above:
http://www.shemayisrael.co.il/parsha/kollel/archives/shoftim61.htm

But I don't think the original, earlier Chachamim had this in mind. I really believe that just as they changed the system established by the Nevi'im, a generation far greater their own, we also need to change the system. Orthodox Judaism, Torah Judaism, is not meant, and never was meant to be a burden. It was meant to be a moral way of life that God himself established for us at Har Sinai. And when times changed, the Torah, which is true Emes, should have been able to adapt to new times. I don't mean that the Torah itself should have changed, chas veshalom. I do mean that so much of the oral law needed, and still needs, to change!

In the 18th century, the Jews in Europe were emancipated. They were finally allowed to live and prosper in certain regions in Europe, especially Germany and France. Things were changing. But the Rabbinic leadership steadfastly refused to change anything, to allow people to live in the real world. They insisted people stay in the oppressive ghettos and live as they had always lived. Along came Moses Mendelssohn, a frum Jew from the day he was born to the day he died, and said changes were necessary. He scoffed at, and still is considered today in the Orthodox world to be the father of Reform Judaism. Frankly, I think if Mendelssohn had seen the Reform Movement, he'd have decried it as not Judaism in any way. But he planted the idea for a need for reform. The Rabbinic leadership of the time said absolutely not. Many Orthodox Jews and Rabbis today love to use him as the prime example of why there should be no changes. After all, you can see how wrong he was because he has no Jewish descendants! Of nine grandchildren, according to Aish.com, eight were baptized as Christians.

"Look!" they love to exclaim. "He was wrong and the proof is that he has no Jewish descendants!"

I say: "Look! He was right! Look what happened when the leadership rigidly and completely refused to adapt the system to new ways of life! He was right and the proof is that he has no Jewish descendants!" And at the end of the day, have we not adapted to living in the culture in which we live? We live in comfortable homes, many in expensive neighborhoods, or at least the more expensive neighborhoods in any given city (which goes back to the needing to be rich to be frum point I made in an earlier post), most have two cars, several children, go to a gym, play sports, go to movies, coffee shops, and ice cream parlors, we have restaurants, many of them, in every major Jewish community, some even rivaling traif restaurants in quality, as told to me by friends who have eaten in fancy traif restaurants. We have pizza shops, candy stores, bagel shops (ok, that's mostly Jewish anyway!:), huge kosher only supermarkets, and great schools with secular education programs that are often at the top of the best of list in many states!

Next: Bas Kol - Conlusion.

Saturday, January 13, 2007

Bas Kol - Part One: a Brief History of Ancient Jewish Leadership

A little history lesson:

God gives Torah to Moshe and Bnai Yisrael. During Moshe's lifetime, Jews follow Torah (with a few notable exceptions) - they had strong centralized leadership that kept them on the (pardon the cliché) straight and narrow. The same applied for the lifetime of Yehoshua Bin Nun. Then trouble started to happen. There was about a three and fifty year period during which the Jews kept falling off the bandwagon of Torah observance, falling into the trap of Avodah Zara and various other nasties. Each time they fell, we see there was no real leadership at the time. Then, they would get in trouble, God would send them a leader to bail them out and set them back on the Torah path, and things were good for a while. This happened several times, until Shmuel Hanavi came along, a powerful Shofet who once again set the Jews straight and kept them there. The Jews then asked for centralized leadership again, a king who, if he followed Torah dictates, would not be a sovereign dictator but an example of how a Jew should be and act.

So God, somewhat upset that the Jews can't get their act together without having to resort to needing a king, says "sure, you can have a king," and gives them Shaul, a young, and at the time, pious, humble, and shy man who would lead the Jewish army to what should have been a final, decisive battle against Amalek, where Amalek would be forever wiped out, thus bringing about Yemos Hamashiach and an end to all tribulations. This turned out to be a whopping failure as Shaul left Agag, the Amalekite king, alive, giving him time to sire a son whose descendant would be Haman. Oops. Of course, we did get Purim out of this!:) We also got a Holocaust out of it, too.

King, take two: Dovid Hamelech! This one worked! He conquered the land, fought off the Philistines with absolute finality, and he showed us he was human with human failings. However with all those failings, failings he was able to admit he had within him, he was still able to lead the Jewish people, show us what a great man can do, wrote/compiled Tehillim (he didn't write them all), and even aspired to build the Bais Hamikdash, having chosen the spot where it would eventually stand. His successor, Shlomo, completed the job and brought the Jewish people to an unprecedented era of peace and prosperity.

Next came Rechavam, Shlomo's son, who wouldn't let up on taxes, cheesed off the ten tribes, and drove them away. Yeravam ben Nevat became the first king of the ten tribes, and in a brilliant, though corrupt, political move, set up golden calves and told the ten tribes they no longer had to go up to Yerushalayim, thus spiraling the ten tribes into a downward decline of avodah zara and various other sins, a decline from which they would never recover and which would to the eventual golus and disappearance from history of those ten tribes. As soon as the Jews were told you don't have to do the Torah thing anymore, they went off and did what they wanted, despite so many warnings from so many Nevi'im, the most prominent of them being Eliyahu Hanavi.

The Davidic dynasty did fair better for a while, and there were shining moments of Torah Renaissance (Chizkiyahu and Yoshiyahu specifically). But eventually, this too failed, as the kings did not perform their duties as being shining examples of how a Jew should act. Some were outright idol worshippers who had the nation worshipping idols, while others were Torah observant but completely useless, allowing the two tribes to continue about their merry, idol worshipping ways. Finally, the Bais Hamikdash was destroyed, followed by a seventy-year golus to Bavel (now a lovely garden spot known as Iraq).

There is a Medrash that says when the Jews returned to Eretz Yisrael, the leaders captured the Yetzer Hara and blinded him to prevent him from ever tempting the Jews to commit sins like Avoda Zara. I have no idea what this Medrash means, as the Yetzer Hara, also known as Satan, has still managed to do a pretty good job at temptation. I think what really happened was the Jews grew up and realized how stupid idol worship actually is. This did not stop the Yetzer Hara from tempting Jews with other types of Aveiras, as we will see.

Next, along came the Knesses Hagedola, the Great Assembly, established by the last of the Prophets, Ezra Hasofer and Nechemia, the precursor to the Tanaic period, and began to set up guidelines. These guidelines would be expanded and expounded upon by the Tanaim, the first of whom was the last member of the Knesses Hagedola, Shimon Hatzadik. The Tanaim began the Mishnaic period, when major Halacha would be decided, many would argue with one another, and mostly, if not always, the Halacha would follow the majority. The Anshei Knesses Hagedola and the Tanaim began what we today as Torah She'be'al Peh - the Oral Torah/Tradition - Mesorah - the major reason many today tout as the excuse to do or not to do something, though it is conveniently forgotten when it becomes, well inconvenient (anybody ever wonder why turkey is considered kosher? There is no Mesorah for it whatsoever!). Most of these guidelines, later written down by Rabbi Yehudah Hanassi, the last of the Tanaim, were, as it says in the very first Mishnah in Maseches Brachos, "Kedai Le'harchik es Ha'adam Min Ha'Aveira" - to distance a person from committing a sin or (as is the actual case discussed in that first Mishnah) to make sure a person follows Torah Halacha, like saying Shema at the proper time.

I believe, for the most part, at least at first, Chazal had the right idea - let's prevent the tragedy and travesty of the era of the first Bais Hamikdash from happening again. They came in, saw the system the Nevi'im, people many orders of magnitude greater than the Chachamim (after all, they spoke to God!!), had set up was not working, and set up a new system, a system of oral tradition the core purpose of which was to keep the Jews on a Torah path. Did it work? To some extent, it certainly did. Jews historically have never really been interested in idol worship after the destruction of the first Bais Hamikdash. So, in a sense, I guess the Satan was "blinded" - prevented from causing Jews to worship idols anymore.

But did the new system work? Again, in some aspects, it certainly worked, but not in most. People still went around shucking off Ol Malchus Shamayim when the opportunity came along, as was the case with Hellenism. People began hating others needlessly, without cause or provocation, the classic reason of the why the second Bais Hamikdash was destroyed, as illustrated by the story of Kamtza and Bar Kamtza. Many groups splintered off from the "rabbinic mainstream," saying the rabbis had no right to dictate halacha not found in the Torah, the most famous of these groups being the Sadducees, Essenes, and the Christians (unfortunately, we all know where that went!). Could these developments have been avoided? Yes. If the rabbis had sat down with these groups instead of dismissing them out of hand, talked through the issues and came to agreements, perhaps many of these developments could have been avoided. Instead of pioneering a new system, as they had done hundreds of years earlier, they decided this was the only system possible and no one could change it. No one.

The lesson we're supposed to take from this: Chachamim decide Halacha. This stems, as I mentioned in an earlier post, from the often misquoted Possuk in Shoftim about following the psak of the shofet, a possuk often used to assert the complete control Gedolim, past and present, have exerted over decreeing what is the halacha, even though that possuk specifically talks about a Din Torah, not a carte blanche to do whatever any self proclaimed "Gadol" wants to do.

Next: Part Two of Bas Kol

Friday, January 05, 2007

"Ki Karov Eilecha Hadavar Meod..." - Why is it so difficult and costly to be a frum Jew?

Devarim 30:11-14: For this commandment which I have commanded you today is not hidden from you and it is not distant. It is not in heaven [for you] to say 'who can ascend to the heavens for us and take it for us so we may listen to it and perform it [the mitzvahs]?' Nor is it on the other side of the sea [for us] to say 'who will cross the sea and so we may listen to it and perform it [the mitzvahs]?' Rather, the matter is very near to you, in your mouth and in your heart, to do it [keep the Torah and Mitzvahs.

Ki Karov Eilecha Hadavar Meod - It is very close to us, easily accessible.

Moshe Rabeinu is leaving us a message: It's easy to keep the Torah and be a Halachah observant Jew. It's not pie in the sky (pardon the rhyming cliche) and it's not impossible to learn and do. It's close, easy, and not a burden. This is not to say some areas aren't more difficult than other. Of course they are! That's why the Torah provided for Shoftim and Batei Dinim.

So what happened?! Who went and took all the joy out of being frum? "What do you mean?", many will ask.

The cost of kosher food is astronomical, especially meat, dairy, and anything produced in or for a "kosher" factory (Liebers, Paskez, etc.). Jews live in the most expensive neighborhoods, forcing even those who can't afford to live in the more affluent neighborhoods to live there if they want to be part of a community, especially on Shabbos and Yom Tov. For Pesach, the price of a five pound bag of Domino sugar at the kosher stores magically costs $4.99 just because it has an OKp on it, though it's interesting to note that the supermarkets sell the same sugar year round, including for Pesach (with and OKp on it all year round), for about $2.75. When I confronted a store owner about prices, his answer to me was "do you want to buy the store?" I haven't been in there since.

Ki Karov Eilecha - It should be accessible, but being frum, unless you have a really good income, puts you in hock! Then there's the expense of giving your children a Torah education! Not only do we have to pay taxes to support the public school system, we also have to pay astronomical tuition to give our kids a good education. And let me tell you, many of the Jewish schools' educations stink. I've been to some of them as a student. They really stink!

Ki Karov Eilecha - I grew up Lubavitch and got turned off to it for many reasons, primary of which was when the Rebbe advocated Ahavas Yisrael, many Lubavitchers took that to mean Ahavas Yisrael only for other Lubavitchers, people they were with whom they were working to get them to be frum, and anyone with lots of money to give away. As the son of neither a rich person, a rabbi, or a shaliach, I was considered persono non grata by my rabbeim and schoolmates, nearly all of whom met at least one of the above criteria. Not so easy!

Ki Karov Eilecha - Why am I paying nearly $1200 in rent every month when the same house in many other neighborhoods in this city, good neighborhoods, would only cost about $400 or $500 per month in rent?

Ki Karov Eilecha - Why do I go out for dinner, why do I pay $25 for about five or six bites (no joke!) of lamb chop? Why does is the price of kosher meat in general at least three times the price of non kosher meat? I can understand a bit more, fifty cents or a dollar, but almost $4.00 a pound for chicken breasts instead of $1.20 for non kosher?!?! That's highway robbery! It does not cost that much more to produce kosher meat and poultry. It just doesn't!!

Ki Karov Eilecha - Why is it that when looking for a job, one must be afraid to mention that one must leave early on Friday afternoons for a three or four month stretch? My wife didn't get hired for a job because of this!

Ki Karov Eilecha - I really don't understand this. Where is the joy of keeping Torah and Mitzvahs properly without having to sell your firstborn to afford to feed him? I mean this seriously. As I mentioned in the previous post, my wife and I are deeply in debt, in large part because of a decision to follow someone's advice who at the end of the day had no place giving such bad advice.

Ki Karov Eilecha - where did it go wrong? When did it become such a burden to be a halacha following Jew? Don't get me wrong: I believe in Torah, in Hashem, in Yiddishkeit. I just don't believe this is what God intended. How could he have? There is a concept in Torah of having accurate weights when selling goods. I believe this also extends to charging fair prices for goods. It really bothers me when I stand in line at the supermarket and the person in front of me is buying groceries similar to mine and paying about a third of the price.

Ki Karov Eilecha - It's supposed to be easy! Not by rote, but also not so difficult that every time you go shopping you have to think to yourself - is this really worth it? This is not the message of Ki Karov Eilecha. I truly believe that if Moshe Rabbeinu showed up in 2007, he would look around at the Jewish communities and say "Hashem! What happened to the Jews? I thought they would survive the generations? Where did they go?!" He would not recognize us because this is not the Jewish nation he envisioned.

Ki Karov Eilecha - Where are the Rabbanim who are supposed to be watching over all this? Many of them are Mashgichim running Kosher Mafias around the country, causing part of the problem of the high prices of food and education. And truthfully, how much does Hashgacha really work? In Monsey, NY, a butcher operating for nine years was caught after who knows how long selling treif meat. At kosher prices, much less!! There's an old saying - Who Guards the Guardians? Well, who Mashgiach's the Mashgichim?

Good Shabbos!

Next up: Bas Kol - the Fracturing of Judaism.

P.S. If there are any typos, please forgive me.

Wednesday, January 03, 2007

Rabbis Need to Start Advising Responsibly

Here is a big issue: Rabbis who do not advise responsibly. While making the choice to follow a rabbi's advice is solely in the purview of the person seeking that advice, rabbis, knowing many will follow their advice unquestioningly, need to learn to advise responsibly, especially in a "frum" society in which not following your rav's advice is practically considered an aveira, or at the very least, very bad mojo.

There was a time when I, like many, followed a rabbi blindly, unquestioningly, and was considered to be his closest talmid. I told him I wanted to go back to Yeshiva (this was while I was still single). He sent me to his Yeshiva. I spent two years there, learned a lot. Then, at the beginning of the third year, I got married. Before the wedding, my future wife and I went to this rabbi with financial concerns about me being in yeshiva. Where would the income come from when my wife had a baby? How would we be able to afford living on one income? His answer: "Have Emunah and Bitachon. Somehow, my wife and I got by. I don't know how we made it, but we did." Great! We went, despite my wife's reservations. (By the way, the rabbi and his wife got by because both her parents and his mother supported them! He just didn't know it.)

Well, I learned the hard way that Emunah and Bitachon are sometimes just not enough. We didn't have parents who could afford to pay our way. I took a job at a new high school in the same location where I spent my first year in Yeshiva (a branch of the main yeshiva). I was supposed to be paid about $6,000 for the semester. I got paid $3,000. The head of the school never actually paid me the other half of what he owed me. Ever. He found himself a way out of it! Great way for a guy in a black hat and suit to act, huh?

Well, came June of that year. My wife was due in August. I called my rabbi and told him were needed to come back home so I could go to work. He gave me a long argument about he is hesistant to allow me to leave a Makom Torah. I explained to him that once my wife had the baby, I wouldn't be in Yeshiva anyway as I would be working and therefore, it would not really be a Makom Torah for me. We went round and round until he finally had me call the Rosh Kollel, who, after hearing what was going on, basically said "What the heck are you still doing here?!" Look at that, someone in the Yeshiva world with common sense.

A series of events continued to unfold over the next five years that have led us to the present, where we are terribly in debt and in great resentment. It all traces back to the advice this rabbi gave. It was bad advice. Rabbis do not know everything, and this person's ego wouldn't allow him to tell me in the first place to go get a job and be a responsible adult. His ego would have been damamged if his star student dropped out of yeshiva before getting semicha. Guess what? My wife and I believe this person a complete fool. I finally walked out of his shul one shabbos and never came back when he called me a Choteh Plili.

Now, was it my reponsibility when I made the decision to go back? Yes. I accept that responsibility. I'm a thinking human being who decided not to think something through. However, knowing I would follow and advice he gave, this rabbi should have known better, put his ego aside, and give proper advice, not based on his emotions or his ego, but based on facts and concerns of the party to whom he is imparting that advice. Just because something worked for him, doesn't mean it'll work for someone else.

This person's Rosh Yeshiva was once asked why bochurim had to go through so many years of learning to get semicha and go out to be a rabbi of a shul or do kiruv. His answer: "When a person goes through four years of medical school, and assorted years of internship and residency, and then you put a scalpel in his hand, he is called a surgeon. When a person doesn't and you put a scalpel in his hand, he is called a butcher. The same goes for being a rabbi and doing kiruv. You have to know what you are doing, otherwise a person just ends up a butcher of souls." A beautiful saying, except that this yeshiva has ceased teaching its talmidim how to be surgeons and is sending out butchers in droves! of the over 250 people I know there, I only know of one who really took his learning to heart, internalized his Torah, and truly came out a Ben-Torah, Yarei Shamayim, and a surgeon. One person. The rest are butchers. It's unfortunate, but true.

RABBIS: LEARN TO GIVE RESPONSIBLE ADVICE! OTHERWISE YOU'RE JUST A BUTCHER WHO HAS THE POWER TO RUIN OTHER PEOPLE'S LIVE!!

Next up: "Ki Karov Eilecha Hadavar Meod..." - Why is it so difficult and costly t be a frum Jew?

Lo Sasur Yamin O Smol

Well, it's been quite a while since I last posted, and I am sorry for that. It's been a bit busy, especially with my son's school giving way to much vacation (although, I remember when we had vacation and it was NEVER enough!:), and my daughter giving up one of her two naps and causing general mayhem, chaos, and destruction!;)

The Possuk in Yehoshua (1:7) says: "Just be strong and very courageous to observe and do in accordance with all the Torah that Moses my servant has commanded you. Therefore, do not stray right or left in order that you will succeed in wherever you go." God gave this commandment to Yehoshua, a commandment presumably applicable to us all. After all, if Yehoshua, who was but the moon to Moshe's sun, had to be commanded to be careful about not straying one way or another, does this not apply to all the rest of us as well?

We always hear complaints from those further to the right on the religion scale (you know, those more religious that others...) about how awful it is when people go "off the derech" or about people who just aren't "frum" or not "as" frum as they. Many of these people like to think of themselves as Chareidim, or Ultra Orthodox, which apparently makes the rest of us not as frum! Does this mean we don't keep Halacha? Personally, when someone asks me "What are you?", I usually answer "I'm a halacha following Jew." People love to niche, and people who keep more chumras than others think they are more "frum" than others.

However, the possuk doens't just say "do not stray to the left." It says "do not stray right or left," placing right before left, perhaps hinting to us that deviating to the right might even be worse than straying to the left! Unfortunatlely, it's often more difficult to look at someone wearing a black hat and say that person has strayed than it is to look at a Jew who is driving on shabbos and say "that person isn't frum!" But one has to learn to look beneath the top layer and see what is underneath. Does the person wearing the black hat treat his fellow Jew with love and respect? Personally, I've met many more people who wouldn't be considered "frum" who treat others with much greater respect than many black-hat-wearing rabbis who look down from their holier-than-thou pedestals and basically believe "those" people have no part in Olam Haba. Or who look down from their pedestals and decide not to pay their employees on time, if at all (but that's a different story).

In Judaism, we have a concept of not making the permissable, well, not permissable, just as we are not supposed to make that which is not permissable, well, permissable. This is a two way street: Lo Sosur Yamin O Smol - do not stray right or left.

Along these lines, my wife and I have come across a related concept that has been the topic of many discussions:

There is a posuk in the Devarim (4:2) that says: "Do not add to the what I have commanded you and do not detract (or subtract - same thing) from it..." Rashi comment on this possuk and says "for instance [do not] add a fifth species to [the mitzvah of] Lulav or a fifth fringe of Tzitzis, and, as well, do not dectract." In other words - don't add Chumrahs. Don't make the muttar ossur. I heard a joke once:

Dialogue while Moses is at the top of Sinai.

G-d: And remember Moses, in the laws of keeping Kosher, never cook a calf
in its mother's milk. It is cruel.

Moses: Ohhhhhh! So you are saying we should never eat milk and meat
together.

G: No, what I'm saying is, never cook a calf in its mother's milk, its
cruel

M: Oh, What you are really saying is we should wait six hours after
eating meat to eat milk so the two are not in our stomachs.

G: No, Moses, what I'm saying is, don't cook a calf in it's mother's
milk, Its cruel!!!

M: Oh, Lord! Please don't strike me down for my stupidity! What you
mean is we should have a separate set of dishes for milk and separate set
for meat and if we make a mistake we have to bury that dish outside....

G: Moses, do whatever the heck you want.......

Obviously, this is an extreme. We all do firmly believe in the reasoning behind the posuk of "Do not cook a kid in its mother's milk" being repeated three times in the Torah - once not to cook them together, once not to eat it, once not to have benefit of any kind from it.

Here's what's interesting: There is another possuk in Devarim (17:11) that says something very similar: "According to the Torah they [the shofet, cohen, wise man] teach you and according to the judgement they tell you, you will do; you will not deviate from the word right or left." Sounds like it says Chachamim have carte blanche to say anything they tell you to do you have to do. This specific possuk is the one always quoted by the right wing, which they use to claim that everything a Gadol says, goes. However, like the right wing, missionary Christians, they quote this possuk out of context. This possuk cannot be read by itself. It must be read with the verses preceding it (17:8-13):

"If a matter arises which is too hard for you to judge, between degrees of guilt for bloodshed, between one judgment or another, or between one punishment or another, matters of controversy within your gates, then you shall arise and go up to the place which the Lord your God chooses. And you shall come to the priests, the Levites, and to the judge there in those days, and inquire of them; they shall pronounce upon you the sentence of judgment. You shall do according to the sentence which they pronounce upon you in that place which the Lord chooses. And you shall be careful to do according to all that they order you. According to the sentence of the law in which they instruct you, according to the judgment which they tell you, you shall do; you shall not turn aside to the right hand or to the left from the sentence which they pronounce upon you. Now the man who acts presumptuously and will not heed the priest who stands to minister there before the Lord your God, or the judge, that man shall die. So you shall put away the evil from Israel. And all the people shall hear and fear, and no longer act presumptuously."

This possuk of listening to the Shoftim (judges), when read in context, takes on a completely different meaning! It's talking about going to a Din Torah when you yourself don't know what to do! This does not give anyone carte blanche to decide things. It is very clearly the basis of Hilchos Dayanim (Choshen Mishpat), which very specifically state that a Dayan really needs to know what he's doing when handing down a Psak Din and that a Dayan will judge based on the Torah he teaches - Al Pi HaTorah Asher Yorucha. There need to be logical reasons from the Torah explaining why a Dayan is handing down a specific Psak Din. Unfortunately, the first possuk I quoted above (Devarim 4:2) is never quoted by this party because that might actually say something like: "Hey, you don't have carte blanche to decide halacha anyway you like." Unfortunately, so many "Gedolim," be they of modern times or of old, believe differently because it gives them control and so many people follow them blindly, not taking any responsibility for themselves. It's almost like what Karl Marx said about religion being the opiate of the masses - let someone else think for me and tell me what to do. This is a terrible state of affairs in which so many purportedly "frum" Jews find themselves.

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